In This Episode
Can you actually change your personality to become who you want to be?
If you’re like the 87 million people who’ve taken personality quizzes on Facebook, you’re probably at least a little bit interested in what your personality says about you.
But did you know you can actually change your personality? It’s not just an innate thing that shapes who you are but something shaped by who you decide to be!
I’m sharing with you everything I learned from Personality Isn’t Permanent: Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs and Rewrite Your Story by Benjamin Hardy. And there was so much good stuff in this book that it’s going to take 2 episodes to share all my favorite takeaways!
You’ve heard me talk a lot about the power of our thoughts and our minds and how important it is to be doing the mental work necessary to reach your goals. And that’s exactly what this book is about.
Hardy says that our responsibility is to create ourselves through the decisions that we make and the environments that we choose.
One fundamental aspect of being human is the ability to make choices and then stand by them. And the more you own the power of this decision making, the more you control your life and the outcomes that you get.
Hardy shares that more than 90% of people are dissatisfied with some part of their personality, and are pretty much made to believe that there’s nothing they can do about it.
But you have a lot more control over your personality than you think you do.
One major shift is realizing that our personality should come from our goals, not the other way around. First, you’ve got to decide what you want. Then, you can figure out what you need to learn, what needs to change in order for you to achieve that and what labels will serve you in getting there.
In Part 1 I’m breaking down the first half of the book, which goes deep into the role that our past plays in who we are right now.
- 5 big myths about personality and how they may be holding you back from growth
- Why personality labels keep you stuck (and a better way to think about personality traits)
- The difference between fixed and growth mindsets
- How looking to your past can either keep you stuck OR propel you to further growth
- How to gain more control over your results