What Are You Currently Doing?
Whether your goal is to lose weight or body fat, gain muscle, improve health markers, boost endurance or quality of life, or whatever else, the one commonality is that you want something to be different than it is now, right? So why is it that when push comes to shove, we’re so resistant to actually doing what it will take to see that change?
If you’ve found yourself in a place where you’re not happy with [insert your concern here], then whatever you’re currently doing isn’t yielding your desired results, yes?
So you need to do something differently in order for things to change. That should be the easy part to wrap your head around.
If you say that you want to lose weight but you’re not willing to eat less, you’re not willing to eat more (yes, not eating enough actually can be a hindrance to weight loss), you’re not willing to change what you eat, you’re not willing to change what you drink, you’re not willing to reintroduce — or experiment with eliminating — certain foods, you’re not willing to exercise more (or less), you’re not willing to prioritize rest and recovery, you’re not willing to address the stressors in your life…well, how can you expect an outcome that’s different from the current one?
How Can You Change That?
What which of those things need to change may be trickier but the fact that something (or multiple somethings) has to change should be universally accepted.
Great, now that we’ve established that, where do you begin?
Unfortunately there is no universal answer to this one because your situation is unique to you. Ultimately, you need to be willing to experiment and see what works and what doesn’t.
Even though some approaches may seem counter-intuitive (eat more to lose weight?), think of it this way: if you’re not getting your desired result doing what you’re currently doing, the worst that can happen is that you still don’t get your desired result by doing something differently.
This isn’t a failure, this is feedback that another experiment is in order.
Try The Opposite Day Approach
One of my favorite approaches to figuring out what to try is Opposite Day. If what you’re currently doing isn’t working, what would be the opposite of that? That might be a good place to start experimenting with doing something differently.
Now, I do have an idea what you’re thinking right now: “So you’re telling me that if I’ve been exercising & eating healthy foods, I should sit on the couch and eat junk food?”
No, I’m sure not.
If you’re currently eating Special K and toast for breakfast, the opposite could be an omelet with peppers and mushrooms topped with avocado and a side of fruit (protein + veggies + smart carbs + healthy fats instead of almost entirely processed carbs).
If you’re currently concerned that accidentally looking at a sweet potato will cause you to gain weight, the opposite could be to learn about & start incorporating in more smart carbs at strategic times.
If you’re all aboard the low-fat train, the opposite could be to learn about the important role of healthy fats and try adding them in at 1-2 meals.
If you’re currently relying on processed/packaged foods for a bunch of your meals, the opposite could be to prioritize whole foods at as many meals as possible.
If you’re currently just going through the motions when you go to the gym, the opposite of that could be to take a group class or find a strength workout to try.
If you’re currently exercising 2 hours a day, the opposite could be to cut back and prioritize your recovery.
If you’re currently sleeping 5 hours per night, the opposite of that could be creating a sleep ritual to help you get more restful sleep.
See what I’m getting at here?
There are a million of things that you can try changing (which, I realize, is part of the frustration) and all you have to do is be willing to pick one, try it for 2-4 weeks, collect data so you’ll know whether it’s working, assess, and either tweak or keep on keepin’ on.
The Big Points
Your takeaway from this should be two-fold:
- If you want to see change, you have to be willing to change.
- For help figuring out what to change, try the Opposite Day approach.
This takes time and patience but you are not alone in this journey. If you’d like to meet an awesome group of like-minded women, we would love to have you in my free Facebook group, Live Diet-Free. We’re there for support, accountability, motivation, education, and to help you figure out how to make lasting changes in your life. Click here to join.